Dealing With The Holidays When Getting Divorced In Virginia

There is never a ‘good time of year’ to get a divorce in Virginia, but the holidays can make divorce proceedings particularly difficult. Holiday plans are likely to be dramatically different this year, and it is natural to feel hurt, angry, sad, or other complex emotions as a result. Take comfort in knowing you are not alone. Our Virginia divorce attorney offers tips for getting through the weeks ahead.

Dealing With Practical Aspects Of Divorce During The Holidays

The time of year has no impact in terms of how to file for divorce in Virginia, but it can affect scheduling in the Virginia Domestic Relations Court. Between actual holidays, vacation time taken by judges or other courthouse staff, and weather conditions common during the season, hearing delays are to be expected.

While the holidays may seem to put everything on a temporary hold, there are likely still some serious legal issues that need to be resolved in your case. Under the Virginia Code, this includes division of marital property, determinations regarding alimony, and child custody matters. To protect your rights in these matters, follow these steps throughout the holiday season:

• Avoid talking to your spouse without your divorce attorney present;
• If you run into them at holiday gatherings, maintain distance and avoid discussing your case;
• Follow any temporary orders regarding child time sharing or other divorce-related matters that may be in place;
• Notify your attorney immediately if any problems arise.

It is important to close any joint accounts when getting a divorce in Virginia, particularly when a break-up coincides with the holidays. The last thing you need is to incur debt due to your spouse’s holiday spending. Make sure you have a complete list of all marital property and assets as well, just in case they try to give items away as gifts during the holiday season.

Dealing With The Emotional Aspects of The Holidays During A Divorce

Alongside practical matters you may need to address during this holiday season, you may also find yourself dealing with some complex emotions. Even if your marriage has long been over, it is common to struggle with feelings of loneliness and nostalgia. To protect yourself during what can be a difficult time, follow these tips:

• Accept that things are different this holiday season.
• Take it easy on yourself and get plenty of rest.
• Confide in close friends or family members about what you are going through.
• If you have children, consider starting a new tradition.
• Rather than dwell on your divorce, focus on how this phase represents a new chapter in your life.

Our Divorce Attorney Is Here To Help

At Schwartz Kalina, PLLC, we provide the caring support and comprehensive legal service you need when getting a divorce. To discuss how our Virginia divorce attorney can help in your case, give us a call or contact us online and request a consultation.

Sources:

vacourts.gov/courts/jdr/loudoun/home.html

law.lis.virginia.gov/vacode/title20/chapter6/